Cultivating a Rich Emotional Life
❍ You are a human, having a very human experience, in a world that is telling you that you "should" be much of what you're not. Please, remember that in your hardest moments.
❍ Your emotionality and sensitivity is a strength; it is courageous to feel so deeply. Learn to work with your emotions and make peace with them.
❍ Trauma does not affect us one dimensionally. The body remembers, and it does not forget. Trauma affects our DNA, our ability to fight adversity, and function daily. Trauma is not only big isolated, severe events but rather trauma is subjective and unique to each of us. How can you hold space for your experiences?
❍ You are resilient, you've made it through every single circumstance that you've ever overcome up until this moment, right here and now. Acknowledge this strength.
❍ Connect with nature, listen to the birds, notice the sun, play in the dirt and splash in the water. Allow yourself to connect to your roots through the environment surrounding you.
❍ Often healing feels worse before we begin to feel better. In the healing process, we are gently conjuring all that has been deeply settled within us, up the surface. Be gentle with yourself.
❍ You are your own expert, no one else has the answers to the questions that are looming for you. You can find your way back to your inner truth which is your intuition, to use it as a compass. It is a knowing, a feeling that is innate. Your intuition can be sharpened, and developed even further.
❍ The vision for your life is yours to cultivate and create, not your parents or siblings or what society says it must be. The path of your life is specifically engineered and designed by you, isn’t it beautiful that no other human in the world can be you or follow your exact path. Other peoples agenda may not work for you, you do not need to adopt them as yours, lean into your individuality.
❍ Many of us have not learned how to intentionally and lovingly repair conflicts or communicate our feelings. That doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you, but rather recognize with curiosity that repair is possible.
❍ Just as our mental, physical and spiritual selves complete a system, we are also a part of a bigger system which is society, and it has created a breeding ground in stigma surrounding our mental well-being. We are human, and need tending to. This is how we re-claim ourselves, by getting further in touch with all the parts of us that have been shamed into rejection.
❍ Developing the capacity to hold our emotional experience in calmness and to be a witness of our messy humanness is what truly heals.
❍ Our mind, body and soul are connected. We can't separate the emotional, mental, physical and spiritual parts, we must not pretend that they do not co-exist and are deeply intertwined. We must look at the whole system to understand where our pain is coming from.
❍ Healing is a journey, there is no deadline. Drop the expectations and lean into having compassion for yourself. Healing is painful, it is difficult, sometimes challenging, yet extremely liberating and empowering. Learning how to care and love yourself is a process, it is a commitment to yourself.
❍ Our bodies are fascinating and ever evolving. They are designed to help us survive in the least ideal conditions. Learn to trust your body, listen to it, tune into it, spend time with it alone, it will steer you in the right direction.
